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The 4 Mindsets I Had To Develop To Navigate My Inner Struggles As A New Coach.

sent by Siddharth Anantharam    |   September 21, 2023

sent by Siddharth Anantharam
September 21, 2023

I would tackle my INNER GAME first!

"I Never Have Enough Time": The Battle Against Procrastination and Overwhelm

The Mindset Shift

It’s not about adding more hours to the day; it’s about changing your relationship with time itself.

It’s not about managing your time, it’s really about managing your energy.

Have you heard of “Kairos” time? This is the qualitative aspect of time, moments that are indeterminate and rich with experience and meaning. This is where your energy is at it’s peak.

Shifting your perspective from a Chronos-focused view to a Kairos-oriented outlook can be liberating. It’s like trading in a leaky rowboat for a sturdy sailboat—you can’t control the wind, but you can absolutely adjust your sails.

Your Tiny First Step:

Instead of diving into the chaos of tomorrow’s obligations, carve out a pocket of serenity for yourself in the morning.

In that oasis of quiet, take five minutes to breathe in deeply, anchoring yourself in the present and ask:

What are the three most pivotal actions that will create meaningful progress in my coaching journey today?

Think not just of tasks, but of impactful actions that resonate with your inner core.

By embracing both Chronos and Kairos, you align your actions not just with the demands of the clock but with the deeper calling of meaningful work and life. You turn from being a victim of time to its master. 🌟

"I Feel Guilty Charging People": Money as a Measure of Worth

If you’ve ever choked up when discussing your coaching fees, trust me, you’re not alone. I’ve been there, staring into a client’s expectant eyes, feeling like a fraud. Why?

Because deep down, I was grappling with my own sense of self-worth. This isn’t just about dollars and cents; this is about value—your value.

My palms were sweaty, my heart raced—I was terrified. Not of their reaction, but of confronting my own sense of worth. Was this all I was really worth?

Each time you hesitate to state your fee, you’re essentially questioning your own worthiness.

For me, it felt like standing on the edge of a cliff, afraid to take the leap for fear of how far I’d fall.

The Mindset Shift:

When you step into the coaching arena, realize you’re not just offering a few conversations.

You’re offering transformation. Change. A paradigm shift.

Understand that when people invest in you, they’re not buying time; they’re investing in a better version of themselves or their business. This isn’t a transaction; it’s a transformation.

When I finally understood this, I saw that my fees were not just numbers but a reflection of the deep, transformative changes I was facilitating in people’s lives.

Your pricing is a mirror reflecting the tremendous value you bring to the table.

Your Tiny First Step:

Tonight, find a moment of solitude and deep listening.

Light a candle if you must or find that space where you’re most honest with yourself.

Journal your response to this question:

What is the real transformation and value I bring to my clients?

If you like more structure ask yourself:

  1. What dream outcomes do I help my clients achieve?
  2. How do I increase their likelihood of success?
  3. How do I reduce their time and effort?

Don’t rush for an answer; allow it to resonate within you, like a ripple expanding across the water.

Once you grasp the value you bring to the table, you’ll find not just the confidence to charge appropriately but the deep satisfaction of knowing that your work is a gamechanger in the truest sense.

By aligning what you charge with the transformation you deliver, you affirm your worth, creating an energetic exchange that benefits both you and your client. You shift from being apprehensive about money to being confident about the value you deliver. 💫

"I Can't Stick to One Thing": Distraction as a Fear of Commitment

You’ve likely heard that the grass is always greener on the other side. The promise of the ‘next big thing,’ is a perfect escape from the responsibility of the present moment, isn’t it?

Well, what if that restless searching for the ‘next big thing’ is just a smoke screen?

I was the master of the shiny object syndrome, hopping from one venture to another like a rabbit in a field of endless possibilities.

I told myself, “I’m not scattered; I’m versatile!” The reality? I was afraid—afraid of what dedicating myself to a single endeavor would mean. Afraid that if I went all in and failed, there would be nowhere else to turn. This restlessness wasn’t versatility; it was a hidden fear of commitment.

The Mindset Shift:

Here’s the hard truth that we often ignore: True mastery—real, deep, impactful work—comes from diving deep, not skimming the surface. Every detour we take is time away from achieving greatness in our chosen path.

We often think that by doing more, by being more versatile, we’re enhancing our value.

But what if the real value lies in becoming irreplaceable in one single area? By committing to one path, you’re not limiting yourself; you’re freeing your energy to achieve true mastery.

Your Tiny First Step:

Journal your response to this critical question:

What is the one endeavor that, if I gave it my all, could be a game-changer in my life?

Reflect on this. Let the question sink in, and pay attention to what bubbles up. Your intuition knows where your treasure lies; you just have to be willing to dig deep to uncover it.

For me, I realized that coaching was something I enjoyed SO much that I could do it without doubt for the rest of my life. No questions asked.

"Who Am I to Coach Anyone?": The Inner Critic’s Chokehold

Ah, the haunting voice of self-doubt. I remember it well. It used to trail me like a shadow, throwing a veil over every ambitious plan I had. It whispered, “Are you good enough for this?” every time I took a new step. It’s humbling but also paralyzing.

The Mindset Shift:

Here’s the breakthrough: Confidence doesn’t mean you have all the answers; it means you’re open to making a big enough COMMITMENT to find them.

This is what I like to call “confident humility.”

You acknowledge that you don’t have all the tools YET! But you still believe in your own COURAGE and CAPABILITY to figure it out.

You realize you can be a rookie and a veteran in different areas of the same life.

The magic lies in blending confidence with humility so you can learn and grow.

Your Tiny First Step:

Pose this question to yourself:

What is one lesson I’ve learned in my life that no one else can coach through quite like me?

Focus on that. It’s your unique starting point. Your first Commitment.

You don’t need to be fully confident to start; you just need to be courageously committed.

And remember, confidence is the reward for those who journey through commitment, courage, and capability. Are you ready to take that first step?

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