What Did It Feel Like to Be You This Year?

Let us skip the usual questions for a moment.
Not
What did I achieve?

Not
What were my highlights?

Not even
What did I learn?

The quieter question underneath is this:

What did it actually feel like to be you this year?

Inside your body. Inside your mind. Inside your life.

When I asked myself that, the numbers and milestones were still there. But they were no longer the main story.

The Story Behind The Numbers

On paper, this year was great! My work grew. My impact expanded. People experienced me as clear, steady, consistent. If you only looked at things the outside, you would say it was a strong year.

Inside, my experience was different.

A part of me felt like it was always catching up. Joy was something I would try to fit in, not something that flowed through my weeks. My body knew I was not really exhaling fully, even when things looked calm.

If I was really honest with myself, there were a lot of moments this year when I found myself doing things because I wanted to feel differently. Not the other way around.

There were times I meditated so I did not fall apart, not because I felt deeply at home in myself. There were times I played padel so I felt a sense of achievement, not because it lit me up.

I wrote, created, served, and I meant every bit of it, but somewhere there were times during this year when I feel I lost contact with the feeling I was doing it all for. And accepting that brutally honesty was hard!

Why We Avoid The Real Question

We are taught to review our year by looking at output.

What did you build?
Who did you help?
What did you launch?
What goals did you hit?

They are all useful questions. Just a but incomplete.
For me the question that actually tells the truth is much simpler:

What did it feel like to be you this year?

At 7am, before the world reached for you.
At 11pm, when the house went quiet.
In the space between one task and the next responsibility.

If you are the reliable one, the strong one, the one people turn to, this question can feel unnecessary or even a little risky. Life is working. You are performing. Things are moving.

But you can be doing well and still feel tired in a way that sleep does not fix. You can be surrounded by people and still feel strangely alone. You can hit every target and still feel slightly disconnected from yourself.

When that is happening, a deeper part of you knows something is off. No new plan will really land until you are willing to feel what is already true.

Start From The Feeling, Not The Finish Line

Most people start the new year with what they want to do.

I want to scale.
I want to get in shape.
I want to write more.
I want to rest more.

You know this list. You have written some version of it before.

What if, this time, you started with a different question:

What do I want my life to feel like next year?

When I sat with that, a few answers surfaced for me.

I want to feel unhurried.
I want to feel strong in my body, not just functional.
I want to feel joy without having to earn it first.
I want to feel like I am experiencing my life fully, not being a passive observer.

Once those feelings became clear, the actions started to rearrange themselves. The question shifted from:

What should I do next?

What choices protect how I want to feel?
What choices drain how I want to feel?

That is where alignment begins. Not in goals that look good, but actually feel good.

Pause & Reflect

Take a breath and be straight with yourself.

What did it actually feel like to be you this year?
What do you want it to feel like next year?

Join The Annual Reset
A Different Kind of Goal Setting for 2026

This is why I created The Annual Reset.

It is a free 90 minute workshop on January 10th, 2026, where we do goal setting differently for 2026, using this exact question as our starting point:

What did it feel like to be you this year? And how do you want it to feel next year?

Instead of jumping straight into targets and timelines, we slow down and:

Look honestly at the emotional pattern of your year
Name what actually supported you and what quietly drained you
Clarify how you want 2026 to feel in your body, your work, your relationships
Let your goals flow from that feeling, not the other way around

It is still practical. You will walk away with real decisions and clear focus.

But the foundation is different. You are not building a year that only looks right on paper. You are designing a year that feels right on the inside.

Limited spots only, because I want it to feel intimate and real, not like another crowded webinar you half-listen to while doing email.

If you want next year to feel different on the inside, I would love to walk this through with you inside The Annual Reset on January 10th. Let us design 2026 from the inside out.

Join the Waitlist

This is your chance to create a reset before 2026 begins.

What did it actually feel like to be you this year?

The Story Behind The Numbers

Why We Avoid The Real Question

Start From The Feeling, Not The Finish Line

Pause & Reflect

Join The Annual Reset
A Different Kind of Goal Setting for 2026

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